Monthly Archives: March 2010

cayman: day 1

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We have arrived! It’s been a long day, but we are here and doing well. Our first flight left at 7 am, so needless to say, we’re all a bit sleep deprived. They say that laughter is the best medicine, and if that’s truly the case, thanks to sleep deprivation, we’re all quite healthy! It’s been a silly day!

This day was met with mixed emotions. Sure, I was and continue to be totally psyched about the trip. But 6 days without my girl? I can honestly say that the day before we left was way worse than this morning – the anticipation was far more upsetting than the actual departure. Still, I see parents with their little ones and can’t help but be a little jealous. I miss my girl. Terribly. But I know that’s it’s good for us in the end, and there’s far worse that could be happening. We’ll all be okay!

Back to the island … when we arrived at the airport, Mike asked dad and I if we would mind driving the other two vans for the group. Um, they drive on the other side of the road here! We’re the only three (Including Alli.) who’ve been here before, and because of our familiarity with the island, were ideal candidates. Dad immediately accepted, and I hesitated but changed my mind when they told me I would always follow one of them. Eek! The debut is tomorrow; I’ll keep you posted!

We’ve already been to the grocery store and dive shop. Though we took a cab to the dive shop (Which is not quite 2 miles and cost $8 CI, $10 US!), we ended up walking back, so we got plenty of exercise today – we also walked to and from the grocery store! We have yet to walk the beach, but I don’t think any of us minded after the day we’ve had!

Tomorrow begins our diving – we’re doing a refresher at 10 am, and our actual dives will begin around 2 pm if my memory serves me correctly. I can’t wait to get in the water and hear nothing but the sound of each breath and the bubbles following my exhale. There’s nothing quite like diving!

Right now: We’re trying out different varieties of Walkers potato chips. So far, the “Roast Chicken” are a no go, the “Prawn Cocktail” are okay, and the “Worcester Sauce” flavor taste strongly of vinegar. On the menu for tomorrow? “Steak and Onion.” Nice!

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love dare.

Have you seen the movie Fireproof? If so, then you know about the love dare.

Let me back up. A few Saturday’s ago, we bought Fireproof – I’d heard great things about it but hadn’t gotten around to seeing it. It was certainly way more than I expected. Early on, I had a hard time getting past the production side of it – about halfway in, though, I was so into the story that it hardly mattered. If you’re looking for some inspiration, a reason to change some not so great habits/behaviors, or in need of a reality check, you should need to watch this movie – it truly is moving.

Personally speaking, I wouldn’t characterize our marriage as bad by any means. We’re not perfect, and thankfully, we’re far from terrible, too. From my perspective, we’ve got major two issues: communication (Huge, huge, huge.) and attitude/patience (This is all me.). There’s certainly room for improvement – no doubt about that.

After watching Fireproof, I felt a strong desire to learn more about the specifics of the love dare. Luckily, a quick google search led me to the site for the book. I purchased a copy and was so excited when it arrived.

Now, I’m on a mission. Late next week, I plan to begin the 40-day journey through the Love Dare. I’d like to say that I’m doing this for our marriage, but that wouldn’t be the complete truth – it’s indirectly for our marriage in my mind. More like I’m looking for the change in my habits, perspectives and behaviors to change me, thereby have a positive impact on our marriage. Perhaps that’s the whole point. Maybe I’ll find differently as I work through the Love Dare, but I don’t think it will help improve our communication issues – directly. It should, however, help me with my attitude. Perhaps that change will in turn help to improve communication and the barriers my husband has to communicating with me. Indirectly. We’ll see.

Either way, it can’t hurt, right?

Speaking of communication, here are my thoughts – from my skewed perspective. It’s been noted that my husband is not the best communicator. I’m not the only one who’s come to this realization, so though I like to give him a hard time about it, I’m not picking on him – it’s a known fact. On the other hand, I’m a listener – I’m used to plenty of people talking to me about various things. I’m used to lots of incoming communication. Instead of this being all my husband’s fault, could it be possible that we’re both just on completely different ends of the spectrum? Could it be that he under-communicates and I am accustomed to over-communication? Perhaps there’s a common ground we could find that would suit both of us. Perhaps we’ll find that common ground while on this walk through the Love Dare.

I’ve also been known to keep things to myself … just by chance – perhaps some of the issues I have with our communication is based on that underlying issue. Do I expect him to know I want to communicate and expect him to draw those thoughts out of me? Seems unfair, doesn’t it? Maybe he’s not the only one with communication issues after all. Instead, perhaps our communication issues just take on different forms. He doesn’t communicate what needs to be communicated, whereas I do. Instead, though, I don’t communicate what I need to in order to feel connected to him. And expecting him to figure that out isn’t right.

Historically, I’ve interpreted his lack of communication as him not caring. Silly, I know, but that’s how I feel. I know better than that – he’s an amazing man, a caring husband, and an incredible father.

We’ll see how the Love Dare works out when it comes to my perspective on life in general as well as my relationship with my husband. Only time will tell, right?

I’ll keep ya posted!

P.S. – If you’re curious about what’s involved in the Love Dare, you can download a sample chapter right here – see the link for “Sample Chapter” at the top?

no longer an “excuse.”

It’s embarrassing to admit, but prior to Ash Wednesday, I hadn’t been to Mass in nearly a year. Why? Well, there’s that little blessing we received on May 11th that made life a little more busy. Certainly several weeks of absence might make sense, but 9.5 months? No.

Simply put, I used Lily as our “excuse” to not go. It would be too difficult, you know. She might cry. She may chatter to the people next to us. I couldn’t wake her up for Sunday morning Mass. Services were during nap times. During feedings. On and on and on.

Ridiculous, I know. So what decision did I make on/about Ash Wednesday? To use our daughter as an excuse no more. I know it’s only been a few weeks, but so far so good!

She has cried. She has chattered with other parishioners. She’s been squirmy. She’s both slept and been awake. But we’ve been prepared – with quiet toys, pacifiers and bottles. With strategic seating choices – end of the pew and in the back of the church. And thankfully, there have been no major disruptions. Honestly, so what if there were? There are ways to deal with those, too. No, I would not let her shriek throughout the service. However, not going because it’s a possibility is not acceptable.

Even better than Justin and I going, I’ve even made it through a service without him! It was a bit more challenging to go it alone, but certainly not impossible! We had fun and didn’t cause any major disruptions. Thumbs up!

I’m so pleased with this decision, and am looking forward to the weeks, months and years to come. No more excuses – pack her up and let’s go!

it’s my 2 year blogiversary!

Hmm, I don’t know why the icon in my sidebar says “Blogoversary in 209 days,” because clearly TODAY is my 2-year blogiversary! Hurray!

So let’s check out the stats …

And because it’s fun and I haven’t looked them up in a while, here are some wild search terms people have used to find this blog:

  • bird with long orange neck (Not a clue.)
  • cakes husky (Nope, not here.)
  • dog ate mink oil (Mine did, did yours?)
  • hidden meaning of peanut (Can’t say you’ll find that answer here.)
  • jobs where¬† you are paid to persuade others (Mmm, certainly not mine.)
  • lamb spandex (Saw it at the fair!)
  • lightning mcqueen chapstick (I make them myself for my awesome nephews!)
  • muddy cloud (I’m lost on this one …)
  • powdered sugar tastes like soap (Trust me, it does.)
  • severely nauseous (Sorry about that!)
  • “try to vomit” (I wouldn’t recommend it.)
  • word combinations with i & d (IDK?)

Awesome! Happy blogiversary to me, and may there be many, many more!